Also, this paragraph is SO good and needs to be in your memoir: I am sensitive. Too sensitive. Too loud. Too talkative. Too emotional. I am too much of a lot of things. But despite my two divorces, I am actually quite fantastic at relationships. Actually, that’s probably why I’ve been divorced twice. Because, as they say, it takes two to tango, and it’s hard to tango with a refrigerator. When your emotional intelligence, communication, and desire for connection far outpaces your partner’s, well: Knock, knock, motherfuckers: The grim reaper of divorce just rolled up. Sorry, don’t shoot the messenger.
Google fact-checking the simplest things I say…like… make a left “really? Is it really a left? Let me look it up myself. Oh hey yeah it says make a left.” 🫨🫨🫨
Ugh, this is SO GOOD. Just in the past month or so I have started saying that I feel like Cassandra. I also get sick really easily… coincidence? So much great writing in here, and I love how you incorporated Chat GPT in a fun, transparent way.
I've heard all of the above said about me and it got to a point where I just sit with my truth and proceed from that. No explanations given. I think Cassandra figuratively was the mother of the child who said the emperor had no clothes.
OH MY GOD THAT BLEW MY MIND. I think about The Emperor's New Clothes all the time. Because I so frequently want to stand on a table and scream, “This dude is naked; what is wrong with you guys?!” Thank you so much for that comment.
There is so much here that feels very true and raw, just validating. I loved this especially:
My continual adaptation to other people’s preferences and deficits—modifying my baseline to incorporate theirs as the new default—has a delightful name: Self-abandonment.
It’s been my signature move for decades. Because when you grow up thinking that you must be the crazy one, it’s much safer than the alternative: Everything is fucked.
Personally, I don’t know the way out of this particular maze. But I hope you keep writing here and I’m following :)
This! There are times I'd much rather be the crazy one, the hysterical woman, than face the horrors of reality. Not really, but, at the same time, yeah, I kind of do.
Fortunately or unfortunately, I can no longer believe that things are fine and it's just my perception that's skewed. Too bad it doesn't matter what we say or even how we say it -- no one believes Cassandra.
Oh my goodness, please calm down. It is hardly fraud when I clearly stated which aspects were internet research. It was not written by AI. If we are open minded enough we can use it as a tool to enhance and supplement our creativity. It makes for an excellent writing exercise, honestly.
I will not read a piece of "writing" not written by a human being. I am particularly offended by the glibness with which anyone can have in presenting a piece as their own while saying it was "written" also by a computer. It does not matter what is in a piece such as this, how fine it seems to be. If it was not written by a human who has the self-esteem and integrity to do the work needed to produce a piece then it is worthless.
And you all should know better than to encourage this kind of behavior. It is an insult to the creative arts.
Whew... this whole post is a WORD.
Also, this paragraph is SO good and needs to be in your memoir: I am sensitive. Too sensitive. Too loud. Too talkative. Too emotional. I am too much of a lot of things. But despite my two divorces, I am actually quite fantastic at relationships. Actually, that’s probably why I’ve been divorced twice. Because, as they say, it takes two to tango, and it’s hard to tango with a refrigerator. When your emotional intelligence, communication, and desire for connection far outpaces your partner’s, well: Knock, knock, motherfuckers: The grim reaper of divorce just rolled up. Sorry, don’t shoot the messenger.
Thank you for that, my friend! You know I am particularly greedy for your accolades! 😍
Google fact-checking the simplest things I say…like… make a left “really? Is it really a left? Let me look it up myself. Oh hey yeah it says make a left.” 🫨🫨🫨
THIS!!!!
Ugh, this is SO GOOD. Just in the past month or so I have started saying that I feel like Cassandra. I also get sick really easily… coincidence? So much great writing in here, and I love how you incorporated Chat GPT in a fun, transparent way.
Thank you so very much for all of that. I hate that you can relate. But I think there are a lot of us. 💜
I've heard all of the above said about me and it got to a point where I just sit with my truth and proceed from that. No explanations given. I think Cassandra figuratively was the mother of the child who said the emperor had no clothes.
OH MY GOD THAT BLEW MY MIND. I think about The Emperor's New Clothes all the time. Because I so frequently want to stand on a table and scream, “This dude is naked; what is wrong with you guys?!” Thank you so much for that comment.
This is so powerful. And the too, too, too-ness that women have to endure. You nailed it. The reclamation connection is a beautiful bonus.
Thank you so much for such a beautiful comment. ♥️
Arguably, a lighthouse with a Mr. Gadget-like arm and blaring speakers yelling “THIS WAY MOTHERFUCKERS” would be a better design…
Um, oh my god, YES PLEASE.
There is so much here that feels very true and raw, just validating. I loved this especially:
My continual adaptation to other people’s preferences and deficits—modifying my baseline to incorporate theirs as the new default—has a delightful name: Self-abandonment.
It’s been my signature move for decades. Because when you grow up thinking that you must be the crazy one, it’s much safer than the alternative: Everything is fucked.
Personally, I don’t know the way out of this particular maze. But I hope you keep writing here and I’m following :)
This! There are times I'd much rather be the crazy one, the hysterical woman, than face the horrors of reality. Not really, but, at the same time, yeah, I kind of do.
Fortunately or unfortunately, I can no longer believe that things are fine and it's just my perception that's skewed. Too bad it doesn't matter what we say or even how we say it -- no one believes Cassandra.
I feel seen. Thank you!!
I like the sound of your AI
Have you seen this book?
https://www.worldofbooks.com/en-au/products/cassandra-speaks-book-elizabeth-lesser-9780062887184?sku=GOR011459362&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=17920610358&gbraid=0AAAAADFDvN0MJuOP8lbic9GTRVOcK5JG0&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIotDFvcWqjQMVqD6DAx1slTfJEAQYASABEgLWlvD_BwE
No!! Will check it out asap. Thank you!
For those who wish to support the loss of their creativity by using AI:
"The Fine Art of Fraud" https://substack.com/home/post/p-163526164
We call it AI for a reason - It's artificial, like food coloring.
Oh my goodness, please calm down. It is hardly fraud when I clearly stated which aspects were internet research. It was not written by AI. If we are open minded enough we can use it as a tool to enhance and supplement our creativity. It makes for an excellent writing exercise, honestly.
I will not read a piece of "writing" not written by a human being. I am particularly offended by the glibness with which anyone can have in presenting a piece as their own while saying it was "written" also by a computer. It does not matter what is in a piece such as this, how fine it seems to be. If it was not written by a human who has the self-esteem and integrity to do the work needed to produce a piece then it is worthless.
And you all should know better than to encourage this kind of behavior. It is an insult to the creative arts.