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I see myself and my own midlife transformations in the dynamics you chronicled here. You have been so courageous in stepping into the brutal arena of life and facing the tough challenges one by one, head on. For me, my midlife crisis started in my late 30s when my father died of cancer and I was diagnosed with huge benign tumors. Since then I was enrolled in the school of heart knocks. The lessons never stopped! Two years ago, at the age of 50, my house of cards collapsed after my ex's betrayal, the consequences of which led me to soul searching, therapy and non-stop navel gazing, LOL! (I love how you legitimized this 😆.) It was also IFS that gave me a breakthrough in understanding myself and what my soul and different wounded parts really needed and wanted. I'm rooting for you and all of us Gen Xers who are rising from the ashes of the first half of our lives and celebrating the phoenixes that we are becoming.

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I have GOT to try IFS. I think this is definitely a me thing.

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"Now it’s to swap stories about picking up Ritalin and driving to therapy while quietly sobbing about our life choices." I feel this in my BONES! Except, for me, it's Vyvanse and our therapy is telehealth.) But you get my point.

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Wow, Steph. What a journey you've been on...I love this: "Women are terrified of being selfish. We want to be Good. We want to be safe. We want to do the right thing." How that has kept me small through the years. And congrats on the book! Very excited to read it.

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I love and relate to this post so much! I had a very similar experience, which I called my midlife emergence (also the title of the book I published about it -- https://a.co/h5UDU4Y). Congrats on your book! Can't wait to read it!

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