Oh! I think I remember that episode. Clearly, now might be a good time to listen again. 😬 Because, YES YES YES to all of that. "Self-care" is an obnoxious joke when every system in place ensures that we are running ourselves into the ground with no pretense of support or assistance. (And oh my gosh, you are the sweetest to upgrade your subscription. That made me tear up a bit.) XOXO
Sending-BIG love. I was super adrenalized in my early post divorced life but not nearly as productive or organized lol. Breathe when you can, oh and put the book down if it’s not “working”. I couldn’t read for AGES.
Oh my, "adrenalized" is the word for it. That is so perfectly expressed. I really appreciate you validating that for me--reading was always my absolute favorite, and it's been so disappointing that it's such a struggle and isn't making the cut these days. Although I have also pondered my reliance on reading as an "escape," and when needing to escape is less of an issue. . .?
YEP. I live and die by my obsessive list making and planning but I'm still struggling with managing my ADHD time blindness because I swear I can DO! ALL! THE! THINGS! and I am constantly startled at how long things actually take. I'm rocking on about 5 hours of sleep most days and I know I need more but I want to do a million things because productivity feels like self-care (which is a whole damn thing in itself, sigh).
We are for sure kindred spirits on this one. Your description of time blindness and sleep and productivity feeling like self-care resonated HARD. (And I just replied to your Circle message FYI, after replying in my own brain on friday. 😭🤯)
Schedule micromanagement as self-care is brilliant and I need that in my life!!! If it's wrong to practice #neuroticselfcare I don't want to be right, my friend.
Everything in your post made me think about this episode of We Can Do Hard Things: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/real-self-care-burnout-is-not-your-fault-the-way-out/id1564530722?i=1000651846636
One of the key points being that the concept of "self-care" grows out of a systemic failure to support mothers/working parents as they balance care-giving responsibilities with EVERYTHING ELSE. Even the U.S. surgeon general just labeled parental stress as a public health issue for this country. (https://www.npr.org/2024/08/29/nx-s1-5092080/parental-stress-is-a-significant-public-health-issue-surgeon-general-advisory-says) Everything you write about is so, so real--AND it's pervasive.
Oh! I think I remember that episode. Clearly, now might be a good time to listen again. 😬 Because, YES YES YES to all of that. "Self-care" is an obnoxious joke when every system in place ensures that we are running ourselves into the ground with no pretense of support or assistance. (And oh my gosh, you are the sweetest to upgrade your subscription. That made me tear up a bit.) XOXO
Sending-BIG love. I was super adrenalized in my early post divorced life but not nearly as productive or organized lol. Breathe when you can, oh and put the book down if it’s not “working”. I couldn’t read for AGES.
Oh my, "adrenalized" is the word for it. That is so perfectly expressed. I really appreciate you validating that for me--reading was always my absolute favorite, and it's been so disappointing that it's such a struggle and isn't making the cut these days. Although I have also pondered my reliance on reading as an "escape," and when needing to escape is less of an issue. . .?
YEP. I live and die by my obsessive list making and planning but I'm still struggling with managing my ADHD time blindness because I swear I can DO! ALL! THE! THINGS! and I am constantly startled at how long things actually take. I'm rocking on about 5 hours of sleep most days and I know I need more but I want to do a million things because productivity feels like self-care (which is a whole damn thing in itself, sigh).
We are for sure kindred spirits on this one. Your description of time blindness and sleep and productivity feeling like self-care resonated HARD. (And I just replied to your Circle message FYI, after replying in my own brain on friday. 😭🤯)
Schedule micromanagement as self-care is brilliant and I need that in my life!!! If it's wrong to practice #neuroticselfcare I don't want to be right, my friend.