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Karen T. Smith's avatar

Hooray! Validation is so important. Feeling that relief of being able to NAME something that has been itching at you/getting in your way/complicating things for you for so long is also a huge huge thing. I hope you get good info and good answers. We manage our ADHD care through our GP who is a family doc (sees the whole family, so he was first to suggest a trial run for us parents on meds once the kids dx were confirmed via more extensive testing.) His point? Ppl without adhd will feel jittery and uncomfortable on meds. People w/ADHD will feel a sense of calm. I get an overwhelming sense of competence, that’s my hallmark “meds are on board” feeling. Like. Ah. Yes. I am a human capable of Doing Things. Most other therapies mentioned were cumbersome to access in our area (neurofeedback/biofeedback I believe being the main one) so we did not pursue. But even just KNOWING, so much comfort comes from knowing what the hey it is that’s going on up there.

Also I happened to have this tab open which one of my sister’s sent me (turns out it runs in families! 🙃 Who knew? Each of us, in turn, after our kids were dx in the 5th-7th grade-ish age range.) so I’m sharing with you, though it’s just a taste of info about the default mode network. https://www.additudemag.com/default-mode-network-adhd-brain/

Also just a fair warning: there’s some shenanigans that go on with adhd brains, meds, and the long slow death of estrogen in our bodies in perimenopause. I apologize for informing you of this fact. It’s definitely the work of the devil himself. Just when we’re least able to deal with bullshit here’s some new fresh hell bullshit.

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Jeannine E's avatar

Again, all of this is exactly me. I've never heard "look younger than your age," but I've always been told that! And, disorganized but drawn to organizational tools, and the best one: going off the rails in motherhood. Yes. Yeah, motherhood is hard for everyone, but I have felt like an absolute failure at almost everything about motherhood.

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